When I was young, I was told not to be shallow.
That means to say, I should not go for pretty girls.
That means to say, I should not only go for looks.
I should go for what's considered important, like character, personality and a positive attitude towards life.
If I only wanted or even only looked at pretty girls, I was considered shallow. I was the asshole who supposedly abandoned all my values in my life just for a pretty girl.
"You're so superficial" was what people would say, almost as if I condemned the non-beautiful segment of the female race.
But after you grow up... It's like...
... Wait a minute.
Ugly people can be terrible people too. Non-attractive people, by whatever standards can have the shittiest attitude ever.
Imagine intentionally going for someone you aren't even physically attracted to just because others say you should only to be greeted by a terrible human being.
Also...
... Hold on just another minute.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
One's man treasure is another dude's garbage. Everyone has their own version of (physical) beauty. What's considered an angelic goddess to you may be a hobbit to someone else.
So who's to say who is really shallow? Do I decide that someone is or isn't shallow just because I think they have weird taste in women? Am I suddenly not shallow just because I don't meet your standards? Who's really the judgey one now?
Imagine intentionally dating someone based off someone else's standards because you don't want to be laughed at. That's truly, literally a blind date.
And...
... Wait, wait, wait, hold on a sec!
Why can't I go for it all for the sake of love?
Good, physical looks and a great personality in one package. Such people do exist.
You only have one life and should you decide on a singular happily-ever-after, one shot at love. You might as well go for it all.
Imagine intentionally shortchanging yourself just because you don't want to give yourself a chance. Stop being distracted by the bullshit from others' mouths and do what you truly desire. Live a life worth living on your own terms.
If you're fixated on the idea of shallow and only talking about it in absolutes, I dare say you've learnt nothing about love, relationships and people in general.
Now imagine shedding that idea, shutting the fuck up and just going out to meet people with an open mind.
You will be a lot happier.